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In this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 15 – Infancy to Childhood: Training Procedures.” In the early years, discipline is weighted towards the rod because young children generally do not give much weight to conversation. In this chapter, Mr. Tripp examines the details of spanking including several question raised about spanking.
The “When” of Spanking
Tripp summarizes, “When you have given a direction that has been heard and is within his capacity to understand, and he has not obeyed without challenge, without excuse or without delay, he needs a spanking. If you fail to spank, you fail to take God’s Word seriously.”
As parents, we must be consistent. We cannot ignore disobedience. Failure to be consistent results from parents taking the easy way out. It is far more difficult to consistently make decisions based on sound biblical guidance and what is best for our kids. Tripp also explains that we must not warn and we must not ask kids if they want to be spanked. If we do, we train them to wait for the warning before obeying.
Ch. 12 – Embracing Biblical Methods: Appeal to Conscience – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)
The issues of communication and the rod dealt with in the last several chapters imply two additional issues which are addressed in this chapter – appeal to the conscience and focusing on the redemptive work of God.
Appeal to the Conscience
As parents, in order for correction and discipline to be effective, they must be directed at our kids’ conscience. Kids will either excuse themselves or accuse themselves because of their conscience. As Tripp explains, “This God-given conscience is your ally in discipline and correction. Your most powerful appeals will be those that smite the conscience.” Tripp points to Proverbs 23 and numerous examples of verses in that chapter (17, 19, 22, 23, and 26) which model appeal to the conscience. Tripp explains, “the rod gets the attention, but the conscience must be plowed up and planted with the truth of God’s way.”Read More
Ch. 9 – Embracing Biblical Methods: Types of Communication – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)
In the last chapter, Tedd Tripp addressed the need for rich, full communication with our kids. In this chapter he looks at different types of communication. He notes that as parents we often reduce our role to three things: rules, correction, and punishment and notes that most parents would admit that 80-90% of their communication falls into one of those three areas. While he admits that rules, correction and punishment are necessary in every family, there are other types of communication, and we do our kids great harm when we can’t discern the appropriate type of communication for the moment.
He offers descriptions of the following eight types of communication (he does note that these are selected types of communication and there are more):Read More
In the last chapter, Tripp addressed a number of unbiblical methods. In this chapter, he starts into what constitutes biblical methods, but first he reminds us that methods and goals must be complimentary and that our goal as parents is to help our children realize that “a life worth living is life lived under the Lordship of Jesus Christ.” Tripp also reminds us that as parents we must submit to the same Lord.
Tripp offers that a biblical approach to raising kids involves both 1) Rich, full communication; and 2) The rod.
He offers the following list of verses to support this contention:
- Proverbs 23:13-19
- Proverbs 23:22
- Proverbs 23:26
In this convicting chapter, Tripp moves from the goals of parenting to the methods. He looks at several popular, but unbiblical, approaches to disciplining our kids. He observes that as parents we cannot afford to be indifferent to methodology. Our methods are as important to God as our goals, and biblical goals must employ biblical methods. The following are some of the unbiblical methods prevalent in our society today.
1. I Didn’t Turn Out So Bad
In this method, a parent blindly employs those methods used by their own parents without any thought to whether or not those methods are biblical.Read More