Posts Tagged "Divorce"

Two Houses (The Pain of Children of Divorce)

At the end of last year, I did a post on one passage out of the Bible about divorce called “A Glimpse into God’s View of Divorce.”  Over the course of the last week, I have been doing some additional research on the impact of divorce on kids for a series of articles I intend to write in the near future.  I feel like God has laid it on my heart to dig into this issue and specifically to give some thought to how do we, as those engaged in children’s ministry, address this issue and support these kids.  I have to tell you though that my heart breaks with each article I read and each study I examine.  The percentages and the methods are all secondary to the pain and turmoil caused by parents divorcing.  One study in particular sticks out in my head that concluded that kids of divorced parents have more psychological problems than kids who lose a parent to death.  Personally, I have no direct experience with divorce, but I do know what it is like to lose a parent at a young age (my mother died shortly after my sixth birthday).  To read that millions of kids each year are experiencing pain and heartache and long-lasting consequences even greater than that just rips at my heart, and has from time to time over the course of the last couple of weeks brought me to tears.  As the community of Christ, it is time that we stopped side stepping this issue under the pretense of not offending parents and started to address the even bigger issue of the impact this is having on the children.  As I was driving home last night, I had my Ipod on shuffle, and it just happened (read “God thing”) to land on a song from Matthew West that I would like to share with you:


I would challenge you today to spend some time praying for marriages and praying for children of divorce.  I would further challenge you to find a way to help the kids in your church emotionally, physically, financially and spiritually who have or are suffering through this gut wrenching travesty.  It is time that we serve as the Body of Christ to these kids who oftentimes are left with nowhere else to turn!

Read More

A Glimpse Into God’s View of Divorce

DivorceToday’s post is about divorce and the impact of divorce on kids.  It is the beginning of what I hope will be series of articles over the next several months on the general issue of marriage and divorce.  I hope to cover a biblical view of divorce, statistics related to divorce, the impact of divorce on children, and much more.  I do not know why God has laid this on my heart to explore and discuss this issue.  Though I lost my mother when I was six years old, my parents were not divorced and my father and step-mother have now been married for over 20 years.  By the grace of God, I am not divorced.  So, I do not write with a first-hand knowledge of the emotions which accompany divorce.  I think that this is both a positive and a negative.  That said, God has increasingly laid this issue on my heart and so I will move forward in obedience to God.

I feel like an article like this (or a series of articles like these) needs to have some sort of disclaimer – not a disclaimer of God’s Word which is true and infallible and needs no disclaimer – but a disclaimer as to the intent and purpose of the article.  I believe that the Bible is clear – divorce is a sin and God’s plan is a plan of reconciliation.  I also believe that the Bible is the revelation of God who is the ultimate in authority in our lives.  Divorce is not the worst of all sins or an unforgivable sin, but it is a sin (in most cases), and the church has for the most part abdicated its responsibility and mislead its people in not calling it a sin.  It is a sin like all others that needs to be repented of like all others.  And, like other sins, it it the reason the Christ died on the cross.

That said, if you have been divorced, God does not love you any more or less than if you have not.  This is not an article about why you or anyone else should, or should not, have gotten divorced.  It is not an article meant to condemn you if you have been divorced.  If we are in Christ, we have been given his righteousness, and that is what God sees when he looks at us.  This is not an article meant to point out the speck in your eye while ignoring the plank in my own eye.  It is an article about God’s plan and the impact that divorce has on that plan.  It is, I hope, and article which will make people take a second to think about the implications of divorce both on families and on the church.

Read More

Blog Patrol (June 30, 2009)



The Blog Patrol is now three months old, and I have had a great time putting together every week. I’ve learned a lot. I’ve found a lot of great blogs out there, and I’ve gotten a lot of great feedback. So…I’m changing it up.  The truth is, this one weekly entry takes up a large chunk of my time. That time is starting to take away from my priorities in life…my God, my family and my ministry to kids. So, I’ve decided, at least temporarily to change things. Going forward, The Blog Patrol will be a monthly series rather than weekly. I can’t promise how soon after the end of each month I will get it out, but I am going to do my best. Also, over the last several months, The Blog Patrol has become increasingly focus on the issues of children’s ministry, kids and parenting. Without intending it, my love and God’s will for my life has had a significant impact on this series. So, I’ve decided for the time being I will be limited the monthly Blog Patrol to articles related primarily to those three topics. I still follow a lot of other non-Children’s Ministry related blogs, and if I see something particularly appealing, I will be sure to pass that along. So, with that out of the way, let’s get on to the last weekly installment of the Blog Patrol. By the way, if you have any feedback about the change in format, I would love to hear about it. Enjoy!

Since last week was dedicated to articles about parenting, kids, and children’s ministry in honor of Father’s Day, there are a lot of stragglers this week. I tried to limit it to the “best of the best!”


These are the stragglers from the prior week which I either didn’t receive or find in time to add to last weeks Blog Patrol. Enjoy!

How Much Of What We Believe Is From The Bible?

  • This articles asks the pressing question, are there doctrines you hold fast to that are not actually in the Bible. May favorite is, “God helps those who help themselves.” I’ve looked – it’s not in there!

On Disciplined Reading (Pt. 3): How Should I Read? Tips on Getting the Most from Your Reading

  • Bruce Ashford’s series on reading continues with this article with tips for getting the most out of what you choose to read.

On Disciplined Reading (Pt. 4): Why Should I Read? Other Advantages of Reading

  • I didn’t want to leave you hanging on this series. In this installment, Bruce Ashford looks at other benefits of reading.

Discerning Idolatry in Desire

  • In this article subtitled “12 Ways to Recognize the Rise of Covetousness,” John Piper looks at warning signs that your desire is turning into covetous idolatry.

8 Traits of Effective Church Leaders

  • Thomas Rainer looks at 8 qualities that are necessary to be an effective leader in a church.

On Disciplined Reading (Pt. 5): Questions, Answers, and Concluding Thoughts

  • In this final post in his Disciplined Reading Series, Bruce Ashford addersses some of the questions he received while writing this series.

On Disciplined Reading

  • I love a bulleted summary, and Between Two Worlds offers this bulleted summary of the points raised by Bruce Ashford in his series on reading that we’ve been following here on the Blog Patrol!

Ohio: The state of tightrope walkers and acrobats

  • Being from Ohio, I felt morally bound to add this article to The Blog Patrol. I’d love to meet the collective genius that came up with this tourism plan! 

How much do you matter?

  • From Children’s Ministry Online, Kenny looks at 11 reasons you matter if you work in Children’s Ministry.

Twitter thought

  • In this short post, David Wakerly offers a unique twist on how to think of Children’s Ministry.

Read More

The Blog Patrol (April 7, 2009)

I’ve decided to add a new regular feature (hopefully weekly) on this blog that will include some of the best blog posts from the prior week from the blogs that I monitor. We’ll see how it works out, or if it’s worth continuing. On that note, welcome to the first installment of “The Blog Patrol.”

Wednesday (April 1, 2009)

Screwtape on the Southern Baptist Convention

  • This blog (which was actually posted on March 30, but since this is the 1st Blog Patrol I thought I would include it) is based on one of my favorite books of all times – C.S. Lewis’ Screwtape Letters.   This is Trevin Wax’s take on what Screwtape might say about the current state of the Southern Baptist Convention.  Although addressed to one denomination, I think some of the truths from the post are applicable to many churches today.
Read More