Posts Tagged "conversation"

Does Quality Time Always Have to Be Spiritual Time?

The first day of the CM Expo was great!  While I am having a blast networking and checking out all the latest and greatest that kidmin has to offer at the CM Expo this week, here is another article I wrote several weeks ago which was published on The article titled Does Quality Time Always Have to Be Spiritual Time? was published on June 7, 2010.

Brief Synopsis: We don’t always have to share the gospel with kids in order to show them the love of Jesus. In this article, I share about a time I spent just chatting with a kid about his life which was as spiritual as anything I’ve ever done.

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100 Questions For Talking to Kids

image Here is another synopsis of an article which I published over on  The article titled TALKING TO KIDS: 100 QUESTIONS TO START A CONVERSATION was published on May 17, 2010.

Brief Synopsis

I love talking to kids!  I really do.  It just comes naturally, but I know that is not the case for all people.  In this article I offer a list of 100 conversation starters in a variety of categories that you can use to start talking to kids.

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Blog Patrol (June 2, 2009)


Welcome to the first June 2009 edition of the Blog Patrol. It seems like Summer is finally here. I’m looking forward to Autumn already, but tell my kids! It’s a bit of a hodge-podge in the Blog Patrol this week. I saw lot’s of articles this week about the murder of the abortion doctor in Kansas, but I’ve only included what I felt was the best one. I hope you find something useful this week. If you do, let me know!


These are the stragglers from the prior week which I either didn’t receive or find in time to add to last weeks Blog Patrol. Enjoy!

How to Study One Book of the Bible

  • R.A. Torrey offers advice on how to pick and study one book of the Bible.

The Worst Sunday School Teacher Ever. Period

  • Matthew Guevera takes a unique look at the importance of workers in Children’s Ministry and the lasting impression that we leave. This article should serve as a reminder to take work in Children’s Ministry seriously!

Tuesday (May 26, 2009)

Joan or John? My Answer: Part Two

  • Dr. Russell Moore continues his answer to this year’s Christian Ethics question at the Southern Seminary.

One Way of Dealing with the Canaanite Conquest

  • Trevin Wax shares an excerpt from C.S. Cowles on his view of dealing with the Old Testament story of the conquest of the Canaanites.

Leadership | Kids on the Creative Team?

  • This article asks why we don’t kids more involved in planning Children’s Ministry.

Getting To Know Kids In Your Children’s Ministry

  • Thanks to Tony Kummer for linking to my article on getting to know kids in your Children’s Ministry. This is something I feel very passionate about and given that Tony’s audience is vastly larger than mine, I appreciate the link!

How to watch a movie

  • This article examines how a Christian should watch a movie and think about movies.

Ten Commandments of Parenting

  • I’m not sure when this was originally published, but I found it on the 26th. This is John MacArthur’s 10 commandments for parenting.

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Ch. 10 – Embracing Biblical Methods: A Life of Communication – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)

Shepherding A Child's HeartIn this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 10 – “Embracing Biblical Methods: A Life of Communication.”

Tripp begins this chapter with the following observation, “Communication not only disciplines, it also disciples.”  Tripp reminds us of the call Deuteronomy 6 to talk to our kids at all time – lying down, walking, rising, sitting.  Making communication with our children a habit during normal times makes it easier to talk to them under the strain of difficult situations.

Tripp observes that having biblical conversations with our kids is not a short process.  It is a time-consuming, all-consuming pursuit.  It requires patience, insight and flexibility.  Any parent will understand that there are times when kids want to talk and times when they don’t.  In those times when their hearts are open to talking to us, we must be prepared to drop everything to seize the moment.  We must train our kids to communicate.  This also involves training them how to listen.  The most effective way to do this is to be an active listener ourselves.  Tripp points to Proverbs 18:2 which says, “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.”  We must listen as parents before we can be in a position to talk.

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Ch. 1 – Getting to the Heart of Behavior – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)

Shepherding A Child's HeartWe continue our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart” with a look at the first chapter titled “Getting to the Heart of Behavior.”  This chapter starts out with a reminder of what Proverbs 4:23 declares to be the truth of God:

“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.”

That Proverb becomes the basis for Chapter 1 and the rest of the book.  In Tedd Tripp’s words, “The scripture teaches that the heart is the control center for life.”

So, what does this have to do with parenting?  Tripp explains that our kids’ actions, everything they do and say, reflcts what is in their hearts.  In other words, behavior is not the end all and be all when it comes to parenting.  The fundamental issue to parenting, if we really want to help our kids, is what is going on in the heart.

I personally found the following excerpt from Chapter 1 very convicting:

“A change in behavior that does not stem from a change in the heart is not commendable; it is condemnable.  Is it not the hypocrisy that Jesus condemned in the Pharisees?  In Matthew 15, Jesus denounces the Pharisees who have honored him with their lips while their hearts were far from him.   Jesus censures them as people who wash the outside of the cup while the inside is still unclean.  Yet this is often what we do in child rearing.  We demand changed behavior and never address the heart that drives the behavior.”

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