2020-02-26 to 28 Pictures: Charleston, South Carolina

One of the few upsides of having to cancel our Spring Break trip last March at the onset of the pandemic is that we are "stuck" with a rather large voucher from one of those discount airlines. Last autumn, Tricia and I spent a weekend in Savannah, Georgia and had a...

A John 3:16 Craft for Kids

John 3:16 is one of the most well known and reassuring verses in the Bible. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.John 3:16 (NIV) The following is a little craft I threw...

2020-03-01 Pictures: Lyndsey’s College Signing Day

This afternoon Lyndsey made it official, signing her letter of intent to play college basketball for the Hiram College Terriers starting next year. While she made the decision and committed to Hiram before Christmas, she has been looking forward to this day since her...

2020-02-13 Pictures: Lyndsey’s 18th Birthday

I am little behind on posting photos. These are some of my favorites from a couple of weekends ago when we got a chance to celebrate Lyndsey's 18th birthday. It's hard to believe that my little girl is officially an adult. It was nice to have the family all back...


Introduction I love working with kids, and I love teaching them hard concepts in ways they can understand. To that end, for years I have been working on a dictionary of theological terms for kids and teens. In sharing those definitions, there seemed no better place to...

If You Want It Done Right

In all likelihood, you know how the phrase ends: If you want it done right, DO IT YOURSELF! This is a bit of a mantra for me, and frankly, something that I struggle with daily both in leadership and in my Christian walk.  In theory, this is easy to accept. ...

What Does God Hate?

This is the little and humble post that started it all. I happened to be reading through my Bible, and this passage impacted me so much that I posted a little blurb about it on Facebook. That was July 28, 2008, and I've been writing and sharing ever since. (Maybe...

I’m sorry…an open letter to my family and friends

Dear family and friends,

I need to start with an apology.  I am truly sorry.  Nearly six years ago, I was given the greatest gift in the history of mankind, and I was asked to share it with others.  For six years, I have made excuses, remained silent and shirked my responsibility – all out of fear.  I have feared what people might think.  I have feared what people might say, and I have feared failure.  All of these fears resulted in me keeping for myself that which I was given to share.  The gift that I was given was the gift of life and the giver was my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.  The purpose of this letter is first to apologize to you for not doing what I should have done years ago, and second to finally share with you the gift that was given to me.

I suppose it makes sense to start by sharing a little bit about my own personal experience.  Prior to coming to Christ, I was extremely wary of organized religion.  Perhaps the term wary is a bit of an understatement.  The reality was, I had an overwhelming distrust and distaste for organized religion.   As a child, we never went to church other than for the occasional Christmas Mass at the local Catholic Church. I felt like religion was for people who needed a crutch and couldn’t think for themselves (the “flock of sheep” mentality). I was certain that churches existed primarily to con people into giving them money, and I was very cynical and sarcastic when it came to organized religion.

As a result of all this, I began to develop my own ideas of what God must be like. These ideas were not based on any particular research or knowledge, but more on how I wanted and expected God to be. My mother died when I was young (6 years old), so I always liked the idea that there was an afterlife and a heaven.  It gave me hope that I would see her again someday.  I wasn’t really sure how you got to heaven, but I figured I was a pretty good person, so I’d probably make it. When it came to the idea of Jesus, I felt like maybe he was a good teacher, but the idea that he was God in human form (i.e., the “Son of God”) seemed to far fetched to me to be real. I thought that the Bible was probably full of good stories illustrating certain points (I hadn’t actually read it), but I figured there wasn’t much more to it than that.  I snickered at people who took the Bible too seriously or too literally, and I wondered how any intelligent person could have that much “blind faith.”  I was also annoyed by any type of evangelism.  In my mind, religion was a very personal thing between me and my God.  I was offended by anything that I perceived as people trying to force their beliefs upon me.

I did leave room for the possibility that the Church might potentially serve two useful functions for some people. First, I thought church probably served a social function.  It was a place where people got together and met other people from their community and maybe had lunch together after the Sunday sermon.  Secondly, I thought church might be good for kids to teach them about the idea of faith. I didn’t necessarily think that that faith had to be in God, but I thought it was important to teach kids to have faith in something.

I don’t know exactly where these ideas and notions of mine came from, but they worked well enough for me for the first 30 years of my life.  I was happy to keep God in the small box that I had constructed for him and to go about living my life.  It was a fairly good life that I was leading.  I managed to graduate from college, get a good job, start my own company, get married, buy a house and have some kids all without giving much thought to God or spiritual matters at all.

Then, after the birth of my daughter (my third child) in 2003, my wife and I decided to take some friends up on an invitation to their church. In the past I had half jokingly referred to their church as “the cult.”  I was still wary and extremely skeptical, but I decided it was a chance to hang out with my friends which was important to me, so we went. After going the first time, my curiosity was peeked, and we started going more regularly in the weeks thereafter.  When I started to put my preconceived notions of organized religion aside and really listen to what was being said, I began to realize that Christianity was not at all what I presupposed it to be – a series a rituals and unthinking followers led by blind faith. I remember reading 1 Thessalonians 5:21 which says, “Test everything. Hold on to the good.”   Reading that dispelled any notion I had previously held that Christianity required blind faith. Here was a faith (Christianity) which invited me to research and question it, and then decide whether it was true.

That realization sparked questions that I needed to find answers to. I wasn’t much of a “people person” at the time (I’m still not, really). So, I wasn’t interested in talking to a bunch of Christians about their belief system. In hindsight, I think I was still distrustful of them when it came to getting at the truth.  Instead, I began to read – a lot. I wanted to find out what Christianity was all about and whether there was actually any truth to it. I wanted to find out for myself, but I was also driven by my desire to make sure that I passed on truth to my kids.  I needed to find out what that truth was! As I did my research, I came to discover the historical accuracy of the Bible, the archaeological & scientific evidence, for the Bible, and the evidence of its own validity found within the Bible itself (i.e., fulfilled prophecy).  I came to find out, and believe, that the Bible was a lot more than just a collection of good stories written by men to illustrate their point(s).  I came to realize and accept that the Bible was God’s Word given to men to, among other things, provide adequate evidence and proof of the existence of God, and Jesus.

I will never forget the day when, in the midst of researching Christianity and the Bible, I sat watching my kids play.  They were driving me nuts, I’m sure, but they were having fun.  All of the sudden, my love for my kids began to well up inside of me to the point that it almost brought me to tears.  I have always had a deep love for my kids, but this was different.  In that moment, I caught my first glimpse of how God must feel about me.  If the Bible was true, God loved me eternally more than I was even capable of loving my own kids.  That realization floored me.  I realized in that moment that I was at a crossroads in my life.  That kind of love deserved a response.  I could no longer keep God in the neat little box I had relegated him to so many years ago.  I needed to make a decision.

Then, one Sunday morning while I was listening to another Bible teaching, it finally hit me.   I had tried to lead a “good life,” but it wasn’t enough.  I was a sinner.   Because of my sin, I was alienated from the God who created me, and nothing I had done or could do would ever fix that alienation.  The Bible says that God does not want or require me to jump through a lot of religious hoops to go to heaven.  Instead, God paid the price for my sins when he sent his son to die on the cross in my place to be my savior and redeemer, and all he wanted was for me to admit that I needed him and ask him to come into my life as Lord and Savior. That morning I talked to God and admitted that I did need him in my life. I asked him to forgive my sins and come into my life, and I thanked him for giving me the proof of his existence that allowed me to take that step of faith.  I have never regretted that decision.

In that moment, and from that moment, I experienced a deep sense of peace and belonging. Although I still face tough moments and decisions in my life, there is a peace in knowing that there is someone there with me the whole way. I am part of God’s family – an adopted son, and I know that when my time here on earth is done, I will live in the presence of God forever. The original thirst for knowledge that led me to make the decision to investigate Christianity has only increased. I’m continuing to read more and more about the Bible and Christianity, and everything I’ve read thus far has only served to deepen my faith (including the Bible itself).

For many people, the decision to accept Christ into their lives is a very emotional one.  They come to a low point in their life or a breaking point, and they realize their need for a relationship with God.  God then provides the foundation and reasoning to back up that emotional decision.  God didn’t wire me that way though, and my journey to faith was a little different.  In my case, God opened my eyes to the reasoning and proof  of his existence which led to my decision to accept him.  That decision has since led me to the emotional side of the equation as I have come to realize the love, the justice, and the sacrifice that went into God’s plan to redeem me, a sinner, from the hardness of my own heart.  The realization of the depth of God’s love for me that led him to give me that free gift of life by his ultimate sacrifice simultaneously fills my heart with joy and my eyes with tears.  It has also led to a very deep sorrow and conviction born out the realization that I accepted God’s gift of love and salvation and have failed to share it with the people that I love.

In short, here is what I have come to know as truth.  At some level, we all feel the need for God because we were created to be in a relationship with him.  Our sin separates us from our holy God eternally, and somewhere deep down we all feel the desire to bridge that separation.  Some people realize this earlier in life, but many don’t acknowledge the emptiness caused by the absence of God in our lives until much later.  The  sad news is that our sin separates us from God, and there is nothing we can do to bridge that gap.  The good news is that God may a way for us to be reconciled to him.  He gave us the gift of salvation through the death of Jesus on the cross so that we can live forever with him.  All he requires of us is that we accept his free gift of salvation and make him Lord of our lives.   I share this with you now in love and all humility knowing that it is not something I discovered or learned on my own, but something that was revealed to me by a gracious God.

My prayer is that you will come to make the decision to accept Jesus into your life and experience the unmatched joy  and contentment that comes with that decision.  That said, I encourage you not to take my word for it.  Take the challenge of 1 Thessalonians  5:21 and “test everything.”  God’s love can, and will, live up to the challenge.  Investigate Christianity for yourself.  If there is any chance that it is true, you owe yourself at least that much.  As I was researching Christianity and the Bible, I was skeptical, but I resolved to try to approach it with an open mind. As I continued to learn more and more, I wrestled with the question: “What are you going to do if you find out the Bible and everything it teaches about Christianity are true and accurate?” What will you do in that circumstance?

May the peace and love of God be with you always.


Wayne…a sinner saved by grace


  1. Scott Lux


    That is the most moving testimony I’ve ever read. Thank you for putting this out there. I’m forwarding the link to a friend who is still at the point where God is in a little box.


  2. Nicole Tucker

    Thank you for the challenge. If we truely believe that what we believe is really real, how can we possilby keep this to ourselves.


  3. David Poelzer

    I am catholic. Was married; now divorced with two beautiful daughters and a step daughter and a step son. My wife is the love of my life, however, biblically speaking, I appear doomed to hell. I truly accept Jesus Christ as my lord and Savior, however the bible does not concone divorce. Lots of background and storyitems that are way to many to include here. Suffice to say that I know in my heart of hearts, my beautiful wife and best friend would not be here (alive) today, if I had not chosen to sacrifice my first marriage….. I believe that God wanted me to make this choice so that I could be a light in her life.

  4. Wayne Stocks


    Thanks for your comment. I wanted to take just a second to respond to a couple of things you said. I hope you will take my reply with the grace and humility with which it is intended. I do not believe that divorce, in and of itself, "dooms you to hell." Yes, divorce is a sin (minus limited circumstance), and yes, the penalty for sin is death. On the other hand, Jesus died on the cross for all of our sins so long as we believe in him and make him the Lord of our life.

    As far as your second marriage, I believe in an all powerful and omniscient God who works not only through our obedience but also through our disobedience to accomplish his will. I think that is a Biblical view. I am glad that God worked through your second marriage in what sounds like ways that only he could. That said, I do not believe that God condones divorce or overlooks the sin just because the second marriage is beneficial. I believe that is a sign of his grace, not a sign of permission. That first divorce is just as much sin as if the second marriage had never happened. Again though, we are fortunate that Christ died for that sin along with so many others that we all commit every day. For that reason, I do not believe it is accurate to assume that God wanted you to make the choice to "sacrifice your first marriage." I don't believe his justice and hatred of sin would allow him to want you to make that choice. I do believe that his love and grace has allowed something which was a sin against a holy God to end up being something lovely and beautiful. Remember that God chose to work through you to save your second wife, but he could have chosen to work through anyone to accomplish his will. That is the essence of humility. God works through whom he chooses to accomplish that which he wills to be done. We are just fortunate that he sometimes chooses to work through us.

    Many blessing to you my brother. May God continue to bless you and your family!
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