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Little Mouth…Deep Truth (Children's Ministry Moment #2)


So, this moment was a little bit different. It wasn’t actually in my K-1 class. Instead, this entry deals with a conversation I had with my eight-year-old son about Baptism.

After six-and-a-half years of being a Christ follower and ignoring God’s command that new believers be baptized, I finally took that step of obedience this past weekend.  There was no theological, philosophical or other reason that I put it off.  It just sort of got relegated to the back burner of my spiritual life, and I never made it a priority.  God continued to tug at me about this one, and I finally started to feel like a hypocrite telling my kids how important it was to be obedient to God on one hand and ignoring this call on the other.  This is just one of many examples where God has used my role as a dad to my children to explain my role as child to him.

Anyhow, in my local church, the process for baptism involves a class one weekend followed by the actual baptisms the next weekend.  As part of my plan to keep from backing out this weekend or finding something “more important” that needed to be done, I told my kids about it.  I knew they would keep on me.  They were more excited about seeing their Dad get baptized than I ever imagined – especially my eight-year-old son!  He rearranged his weekend and skipped a cousins graduation party because he didn’t want to risk missing the moment.

The afternoon of the Saturday evening I was going to be baptized, we were driving to go see a movie together, and he brought up the issue of baptism. He wanted to know about the class (for the 30th time).  He wanted to know about the “test” (the four question form our church has you fill out to give your testimony during the baptism.  And, he wanted to know about the symbolism.  We talked about the water and what it signifies.  We talked about why you get dunk as a symbol of Christ’s death on the cross.  And we talked about coming back up out of the water as a symbol of resurrection to new life.  In that moment, Jacob uttered something to me that I found profound and which altered my view of the whole process.  He said,

“…and the pastor stands there with you through the whole thing just like God does in your walk with him.”

I will never cease to be amazed at the wisdom that God consistently speaks into my life through these little voices.

The most exciting thing to me as a parent about the whole experience is that he has indicated that he wants to get baptized now, and he’s planning on taking the class when it comes up again next month.  It’s amazing how God works through and in the children around us to teach us about him.

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  1. Darcy Stelzer

    Wayne, what an awesome opportunity to speak into the life of your kids. Rarely do I jump on FB in the am, but my son just joined and I needed to confirm our friendship. Your name caught my eye and of course the topic did too.

    It’s been a priveledge to serve alongside you and watch God challenge and grow you as a leader. As we go through this process, isn’t it amazing to jump for joy at the blessings we receive as we grow forward in obedience to Him. Is there any better way to influence our kids for Christ than to have them watch us grow in our relationship with Him? Congratulations on so many levels! I’m pretty sure Jacob has already learned what he needs to know about baptism from you, (and his insight from the Holy Spirit) but I’d love to be in the process. Have an awesome day!

  2. toyin oshadumo

    i want to know the role of love in teaching children/children minisries.

  3. Wayne Stocks


    Thank you for your question. I will actually be publishing an article tomorrow in my synopsis of Come Ye’ Children that deals with this exact question. I hope you will check it out. The long and short of it is that love is paramount in teaching kids! After all, God is love (1 John 4:16) and he and his plan are what we are trying to teach kids about!

    To find that post tomorrow (August 14, 2009) just go to the Blog Series page entitled “Come Ye’ Children (A Synopsis)” on the top left of this page, or just visit the homepage of this blog tomorrow at

    Thanks for reading!