2020-02-26 to 28 Pictures: Charleston, South Carolina

One of the few upsides of having to cancel our Spring Break trip last March at the onset of the pandemic is that we are "stuck" with a rather large voucher from one of those discount airlines. Last autumn, Tricia and I spent a weekend in Savannah, Georgia and had a...

A John 3:16 Craft for Kids

John 3:16 is one of the most well known and reassuring verses in the Bible. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.John 3:16 (NIV) The following is a little craft I threw...

2020-03-01 Pictures: Lyndsey’s College Signing Day

This afternoon Lyndsey made it official, signing her letter of intent to play college basketball for the Hiram College Terriers starting next year. While she made the decision and committed to Hiram before Christmas, she has been looking forward to this day since her...

2020-02-13 Pictures: Lyndsey’s 18th Birthday

I am little behind on posting photos. These are some of my favorites from a couple of weekends ago when we got a chance to celebrate Lyndsey's 18th birthday. It's hard to believe that my little girl is officially an adult. It was nice to have the family all back...


Introduction I love working with kids, and I love teaching them hard concepts in ways they can understand. To that end, for years I have been working on a dictionary of theological terms for kids and teens. In sharing those definitions, there seemed no better place to...

If You Want It Done Right

In all likelihood, you know how the phrase ends: If you want it done right, DO IT YOURSELF! This is a bit of a mantra for me, and frankly, something that I struggle with daily both in leadership and in my Christian walk.  In theory, this is easy to accept. ...

What Does God Hate?

This is the little and humble post that started it all. I happened to be reading through my Bible, and this passage impacted me so much that I posted a little blurb about it on Facebook. That was July 28, 2008, and I've been writing and sharing ever since. (Maybe...

Little Mouth…Deep Truth (Children's Ministry Moment #2)


So, this moment was a little bit different. It wasn’t actually in my K-1 class. Instead, this entry deals with a conversation I had with my eight-year-old son about Baptism.

After six-and-a-half years of being a Christ follower and ignoring God’s command that new believers be baptized, I finally took that step of obedience this past weekend.  There was no theological, philosophical or other reason that I put it off.  It just sort of got relegated to the back burner of my spiritual life, and I never made it a priority.  God continued to tug at me about this one, and I finally started to feel like a hypocrite telling my kids how important it was to be obedient to God on one hand and ignoring this call on the other.  This is just one of many examples where God has used my role as a dad to my children to explain my role as child to him.

Anyhow, in my local church, the process for baptism involves a class one weekend followed by the actual baptisms the next weekend.  As part of my plan to keep from backing out this weekend or finding something “more important” that needed to be done, I told my kids about it.  I knew they would keep on me.  They were more excited about seeing their Dad get baptized than I ever imagined – especially my eight-year-old son!  He rearranged his weekend and skipped a cousins graduation party because he didn’t want to risk missing the moment.

The afternoon of the Saturday evening I was going to be baptized, we were driving to go see a movie together, and he brought up the issue of baptism. He wanted to know about the class (for the 30th time).  He wanted to know about the “test” (the four question form our church has you fill out to give your testimony during the baptism.  And, he wanted to know about the symbolism.  We talked about the water and what it signifies.  We talked about why you get dunk as a symbol of Christ’s death on the cross.  And we talked about coming back up out of the water as a symbol of resurrection to new life.  In that moment, Jacob uttered something to me that I found profound and which altered my view of the whole process.  He said,

“…and the pastor stands there with you through the whole thing just like God does in your walk with him.”

I will never cease to be amazed at the wisdom that God consistently speaks into my life through these little voices.

The most exciting thing to me as a parent about the whole experience is that he has indicated that he wants to get baptized now, and he’s planning on taking the class when it comes up again next month.  It’s amazing how God works through and in the children around us to teach us about him.

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  1. Darcy Stelzer

    Wayne, what an awesome opportunity to speak into the life of your kids. Rarely do I jump on FB in the am, but my son just joined and I needed to confirm our friendship. Your name caught my eye and of course the topic did too.

    It’s been a priveledge to serve alongside you and watch God challenge and grow you as a leader. As we go through this process, isn’t it amazing to jump for joy at the blessings we receive as we grow forward in obedience to Him. Is there any better way to influence our kids for Christ than to have them watch us grow in our relationship with Him? Congratulations on so many levels! I’m pretty sure Jacob has already learned what he needs to know about baptism from you, (and his insight from the Holy Spirit) but I’d love to be in the process. Have an awesome day!

  2. toyin oshadumo

    i want to know the role of love in teaching children/children minisries.

  3. Wayne Stocks


    Thank you for your question. I will actually be publishing an article tomorrow in my synopsis of Come Ye’ Children that deals with this exact question. I hope you will check it out. The long and short of it is that love is paramount in teaching kids! After all, God is love (1 John 4:16) and he and his plan are what we are trying to teach kids about!

    To find that post tomorrow (August 14, 2009) just go to the Blog Series page entitled “Come Ye’ Children (A Synopsis)” on the top left of this page, or just visit the homepage of this blog tomorrow at

    Thanks for reading!