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Ch. 10 – Embracing Biblical Methods: A Life of Communication – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)

Shepherding A Child's HeartIn this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 10 – “Embracing Biblical Methods: A Life of Communication.”

Tripp begins this chapter with the following observation, “Communication not only disciplines, it also disciples.”  Tripp reminds us of the call Deuteronomy 6 to talk to our kids at all time – lying down, walking, rising, sitting.  Making communication with our children a habit during normal times makes it easier to talk to them under the strain of difficult situations.

Tripp observes that having biblical conversations with our kids is not a short process.  It is a time-consuming, all-consuming pursuit.  It requires patience, insight and flexibility.  Any parent will understand that there are times when kids want to talk and times when they don’t.  In those times when their hearts are open to talking to us, we must be prepared to drop everything to seize the moment.  We must train our kids to communicate.  This also involves training them how to listen.  The most effective way to do this is to be an active listener ourselves.  Tripp points to Proverbs 18:2 which says, “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.”  We must listen as parents before we can be in a position to talk.

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Wayne's Random Thoughts…Monthly Round Up (April 2009)

This blog is growing almost every day.  With that in mind, I thought it might make sense to do a monthly recap of the prior month’s posts in case new readers may have missed something.  My goal is to get this out in the first week of each month.  I barely made it this month.  Rather than a sequential listing of the posts for the month, I thought this would be more useful if I grouped things by category.  So, here are the posts to Wayne’s Random Thoughts for the month of April 2009:

Shepherding A Child’s Heart Synopsis

Monday Morning Prophecy

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Ch. 9 – Embracing Biblical Methods: Types of Communication – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)

Shepherding A Child's HeartIn this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 9 – “Embracing Biblical Methods: Types of Communication.”

In the last chapter, Tedd Tripp addressed the need for rich, full communication with our kids.  In this chapter he looks at different types of communication.  He notes that as parents we often reduce our role to three things: rules, correction, and punishment and notes that most parents would admit that 80-90% of their communication falls into one of those three areas.  While he admits that rules, correction and punishment are necessary in every family, there are other types of communication, and we do our kids great harm when we can’t discern the appropriate type of communication for the moment.

He offers descriptions of the following eight types of communication (he does note that these are selected types of communication and there are more):

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Ch. 6: Reworking Your Goals – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)

Shepherding A Child's HeartIn this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 6 – “Reworking Your Goals.”

In this chapter, Tripp calls parents to rethink their goals for their children in light of the chief end of man – that being to glorify God and enjoy him forever.  In doing so, Tripp looks at the 7 areas addressed in the last chapter.

1. Developing Special Skills

Tripp points out that there is no biblical mandate to, nor a verse that even supports the idea of, developing our children’s self-worth.  All of the activities which we busy our kids with tend to teach them to trust in themselves.  The Bible tells us that those who trust in themselves are fools!  The concepts of self-trust and self-love that are so prevalent in our culture today turn people from God.  Furthermore, the amount of time that these activities takes up tend to become the priority for families and distract from biblical goals such as time spent reading the scriptures, prayer and more.  Rather than viewing these special skills as the goal for our kids, we should remember that the real reason for developing any skills is to be a good steward of the gifts God has given us.

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Ch. 5: Examining Your Goals – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)

Shepherding A Child's HeartIn this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 5 – “Examining Your Goals.”

Tripp explains that every parent wants kids who are happy and successful.  We differ in our definitions of success, but whatever our definition is, that’s what we want for our kids.  Tripp proceeds to examine several unbiblical goals that many parents have for their kids:

1. Developing Special Skills

We get our kids involved in all kids of different activities so that they can learn different skills.  Parents must consider whether they measure their own success based on the number and different types of activities they provide their kids.  Do we judge our kids’ success based on the number of skills they develop?  Is little Johnny a failure if he’s good at soccer and basketball, but struggles at football?  It is important that we consider whether all the activities we get our kids involved in have biblical content.

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