Posts Tagged "Shepherding A Child’s Heart"

Ch. 15 – Infancy to Childhood: Training Procedures – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)

Shepherding A Child's HeartIn this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 15 – Infancy to Childhood: Training Procedures.”  In the early years, discipline is weighted towards the rod because young children generally do not give much weight to conversation.  In this chapter, Mr. Tripp examines the details of spanking including several question raised about spanking.

The “When” of Spanking

Tripp summarizes, “When you have given a direction that has been heard and is within his capacity to understand, and he has not obeyed without challenge, without excuse or without delay, he needs a spanking.  If you fail to spank, you fail to take God’s Word seriously.”

As parents, we must be consistent.  We cannot ignore disobedience.  Failure to be consistent results from parents taking the easy way out.  It is far more difficult to consistently make decisions based on sound biblical guidance and what is best for our kids.  Tripp also explains that we must not warn and we must not ask kids if they want to be spanked.  If we do, we train them to wait for the warning before obeying.

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Ch. 14 – Infancy to Childhood: Training Objectives – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)

Shepherding A Child's HeartIn this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 14 – Infancy to Childhood: Training Objectives.”

Tripp defines infancy to childhood as that period from birth through age four or five.  During this period, the child is going through astounding changes including:

  • Physical change
  • Social change
  • Intellectual change
  • Spiritual change

At this stage, there needs to be one principle objective to training.  That objective is to instill the following: “HE IS AN INDIVIDUAL UNDER AUTHORITY.  He has been made by God and has a responsibility to obey God in all things.”  Submitting to parents is the result of being under God’s authority.  In other words, submitting to authority is what God has called children to do.  This training must start when they are infants – Tripp suggests the second you bring them home from the hospital.

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Ch. 13 – Shepherding the Heart Summarized – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)

Shepherding A Child's HeartIn this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 13 – Shepherding the Heart Summarized.”  This chapter is a short summary of the first 12 chapters, and it makes sense in our synopsis to do the same thing.

The foundations of raising kids covered so far are as follows:

  1. Our kids are the product of two things – their shaping influences and their Godward orientation.
  2. Behavior comes from the heart.
  3. Parents have authority because they act as agents of God.
  4. “Since the chief end of man is to glorify God and enjoy him forever, you must set such a worldview before your children.”
  5. Biblical methods are as important as biblical goals.
  6. God has two methods for raising kids – communication and the rod.
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Ch. 12 – Embracing Biblical Methods: Appeal to Conscience – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)

Shepherding A Child's HeartIn this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 12 – Embracing Biblical Methods: Appeal to Conscience.”

The issues of communication and the rod dealt with in the last several chapters imply two additional issues which are addressed in this chapter – appeal to the conscience and focusing on the redemptive work of God.

Appeal to the Conscience

As parents, in order for correction and discipline to be effective, they must be directed at our kids’ conscience.  Kids will either excuse themselves or accuse themselves because of their conscience.  As Tripp explains, “This God-given conscience is your ally in discipline and correction.  Your most powerful appeals will be those that smite the conscience.”  Tripp points to Proverbs 23 and  numerous examples of verses in that chapter (17, 19, 22, 23, and 26) which model appeal to the conscience.  Tripp explains, “the rod gets the attention, but the conscience must be plowed up and planted with the truth of God’s way.”

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Ch. 11 – Embracing Biblical Methods: The Rod – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)

Shepherding A Child's HeartIn this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 11 – “Embracing Biblical Methods: The Rod.”

Before Tripp ever gets into the meat of this chapter, he shares an observation that I found very profound, “All earthly punishment presupposes the great day when destinies are eternally fixed.”  I had never really thought about parenting in that light before.

Tripp begins the discussion of “The Rod” with a look at the current societal view of it.  Of course, he touches on the fact that the rod, as discipline, is no longer a fashionable idea, and many people in today’s society view this biblical form of punishment as child abuse.  Tripp observes, “I fear the majority reaction against spanking is a matter of fashion or style.  The world of ideas is continually in flux.  Ideas have their periods of popularity and unpopularity.”

Tripp looks first at the “Rationale Behind the Rod.”  As he explains, if children were born morally neutral, there would be no need for the rod.  They would not need correction, only direction.  They would need instruction rather than discipline.  The fact of the matter though is that kids are not born morally neutral.  In Tripp’s words, “The child’s problem is not an information deficit.  His problem in that he is a sinner.”

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