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Ch. 12 – Embracing Biblical Methods: Appeal to Conscience – Shepherding A Child’s Heart (A Synopsis)
The issues of communication and the rod dealt with in the last several chapters imply two additional issues which are addressed in this chapter – appeal to the conscience and focusing on the redemptive work of God.
Appeal to the Conscience
As parents, in order for correction and discipline to be effective, they must be directed at our kids’ conscience. Kids will either excuse themselves or accuse themselves because of their conscience. As Tripp explains, “This God-given conscience is your ally in discipline and correction. Your most powerful appeals will be those that smite the conscience.” Tripp points to Proverbs 23 and numerous examples of verses in that chapter (17, 19, 22, 23, and 26) which model appeal to the conscience. Tripp explains, “the rod gets the attention, but the conscience must be plowed up and planted with the truth of God’s way.”Read More
Before Tripp ever gets into the meat of this chapter, he shares an observation that I found very profound, “All earthly punishment presupposes the great day when destinies are eternally fixed.” I had never really thought about parenting in that light before.
Tripp begins the discussion of “The Rod” with a look at the current societal view of it. Of course, he touches on the fact that the rod, as discipline, is no longer a fashionable idea, and many people in today’s society view this biblical form of punishment as child abuse. Tripp observes, “I fear the majority reaction against spanking is a matter of fashion or style. The world of ideas is continually in flux. Ideas have their periods of popularity and unpopularity.”
Tripp looks first at the “Rationale Behind the Rod.” As he explains, if children were born morally neutral, there would be no need for the rod. They would not need correction, only direction. They would need instruction rather than discipline. The fact of the matter though is that kids are not born morally neutral. In Tripp’s words, “The child’s problem is not an information deficit. His problem in that he is a sinner.”Read More
In the last chapter, Tripp addressed a number of unbiblical methods. In this chapter, he starts into what constitutes biblical methods, but first he reminds us that methods and goals must be complimentary and that our goal as parents is to help our children realize that “a life worth living is life lived under the Lordship of Jesus Christ.” Tripp also reminds us that as parents we must submit to the same Lord.
Tripp offers that a biblical approach to raising kids involves both 1) Rich, full communication; and 2) The rod.
He offers the following list of verses to support this contention:
- Proverbs 23:13-19
- Proverbs 23:22
- Proverbs 23:26
In this convicting chapter, Tripp moves from the goals of parenting to the methods. He looks at several popular, but unbiblical, approaches to disciplining our kids. He observes that as parents we cannot afford to be indifferent to methodology. Our methods are as important to God as our goals, and biblical goals must employ biblical methods. The following are some of the unbiblical methods prevalent in our society today.
1. I Didn’t Turn Out So Bad
In this method, a parent blindly employs those methods used by their own parents without any thought to whether or not those methods are biblical.Read More
In this chapter, we look at the basis for parental authority. Tripp begins by explain that our culture is adverse to authority – not just being under authority, but also being an authority. In our culture, we view all authority as derived from overwhelming force or by consent. As Tripp explains, that leaves only 2 potential responses – either rebellion or servility. In Tripp’s words, “Our culture has no notion of intelligent, thinking persons willingly placing themselves under authority.”
When it comes to parenting, the author explains that parents often don’t understand our biblical mandate to shepherd our children. Accordingly, the goals of parenting often become nothing more than immediate comfort and convenience. In order to function, parents and children must understand that God calls parents to be in charge over their children and that children are called by God to obey their parents.Read More