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Why Yelling Doesn’t Work

Wayne —  December 3, 2010 — 4 Comments

I love being a Dad.  I really do!  That said, I am not the perfect parent.  I would like to be.  If I am being honest, I would like people to think I am.  I truly desire to be the perfect Dad, but I know that I am not.  There is only one perfect Father and He created us all.  Like everyone else, I get tired.  I get irritated.  I lose my patience.  I react when I should teach.  I punish when I should hug.  I ignore when I should deal, and I end up apologizing to my kids for my reactions far more than I would like to.  All that to say, this post is as much, if not more, for me than for anyone else.  Everywhere I write “you,” I read “I.”

SO, LET’S TALK ABOUT YELLING!  I think most parents yell at their kids – whether they are willing to admit it or not.  I also think that we, as parents, are very good at coming up with reasons and excuses for why we do yell at our kids.  The point of this article is not to discuss whether or not you should yell at your kids or the long-term impact that yelling may have on their lives.  No, this article is address yelling at a much more practical level than that.  My contention here is that we shouldn’t yell at our kids simply because:

YELLING DOES NOT WORK!

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DivorceToday’s post is about divorce and the impact of divorce on kids.  It is the beginning of what I hope will be series of articles over the next several months on the general issue of marriage and divorce.  I hope to cover a biblical view of divorce, statistics related to divorce, the impact of divorce on children, and much more.  I do not know why God has laid this on my heart to explore and discuss this issue.  Though I lost my mother when I was six years old, my parents were not divorced and my father and step-mother have now been married for over 20 years.  By the grace of God, I am not divorced.  So, I do not write with a first-hand knowledge of the emotions which accompany divorce.  I think that this is both a positive and a negative.  That said, God has increasingly laid this issue on my heart and so I will move forward in obedience to God.

I feel like an article like this (or a series of articles like these) needs to have some sort of disclaimer – not a disclaimer of God’s Word which is true and infallible and needs no disclaimer – but a disclaimer as to the intent and purpose of the article.  I believe that the Bible is clear – divorce is a sin and God’s plan is a plan of reconciliation.  I also believe that the Bible is the revelation of God who is the ultimate in authority in our lives.  Divorce is not the worst of all sins or an unforgivable sin, but it is a sin (in most cases), and the church has for the most part abdicated its responsibility and mislead its people in not calling it a sin.  It is a sin like all others that needs to be repented of like all others.  And, like other sins, it it the reason the Christ died on the cross.

That said, if you have been divorced, God does not love you any more or less than if you have not.  This is not an article about why you or anyone else should, or should not, have gotten divorced.  It is not an article meant to condemn you if you have been divorced.  If we are in Christ, we have been given his righteousness, and that is what God sees when he looks at us.  This is not an article meant to point out the speck in your eye while ignoring the plank in my own eye.  It is an article about God’s plan and the impact that divorce has on that plan.  It is, I hope, and article which will make people take a second to think about the implications of divorce both on families and on the church.

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Canon Ball Baptism

Wayne —  November 13, 2010 — 2 Comments

I love kids. I love Baptisms. I especially love watching kids be baptized. Check out this video.

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To me, one of the fun things about teaching large group is asking kids questions.  First of all, you get immediate feedback on whether or not what you are doing is working.  Secondly, you get to engage the kids.  However, I think the thing I like best is that you never know exactly what they are going to say.  It really keeps you on your toes.

This week, we were talking about Nehemiah and the providence and protection of God.  After laying out how God had worked through Nehemiah to do the impossible (rebuild the wall of Jerusalem in 52 days), I asked the kids what in their lives seemed like something impossible that God could help them with.

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In Psalm 78 we read:

1 Give ear, O my people, to my teaching;
incline your ears to the words of my mouth!
2 I will open my mouth in a parable;
I will utter dark sayings from of old,
3 things that we have heard and known,
that our fathers have told us.

4 We will not hide them from their children,
but tell to the coming generation
the glorious deeds of the Lord, and his might,
and the wonders that he has done.
5 He established a testimony in Jacob
and appointed a law in Israel,
which he commanded our fathers
to teach to their children,
6 that the next generation might know them,
the children yet unborn,
and arise and tell them to their children,
7 so that they should set their hope in God
and not forget the works of God,
but keep his commandments;
8 and that they should not be like their fathers,
a stubborn and rebellious generation,
a generation whose heart was not steadfast,
whose spirit was not faithful to God. [Psalms 78:1-8 ESV]

The first eight verses of Psalm 78 highlight the importance of passing God’s Word and the memory of His grace on from generation to generation.  While the principal place for this work is within the family structure, as made clear elsewhere in the Old Testament, modern Children’s Ministry also plays a part in the process.  A close exposition of this Psalm reveals the importance of such an exercise:

1. Children’s Ministry is of the Utmost Importance

The Psalmist calls attention to what he is about to say with the words, “Give ear, O my people, to my teaching; incline your ears to the words of my mouth!”  Charles Spurgeon explains the import of this introductory phrase,

“When God gives his truth a tongue, and sends forth his messengers trained to declare his word with power, it is the least we can do to give them our ears and the earnest obedience of our hearts. Shall God speak, and his children refuse to hear? His teaching has the force of law, let us yield both ear and heart to it.”

In many churches today, Children’s Ministry is an afterthought.  Volunteers are hard to come by, and funds are not directed to Children’s Ministry.  In many churches, not all by any means, the importance of passing biblical truth to children in overlooked in favor of a mere babysitting service.

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7 Most Important Things Here is another article I published over on Ministry-to-Children.com. The article titled The 7 Most Important Things You Can Tell A Child was published on July 22, 2010.

Brief Synopsis: Check out this list of seven things you should be telling your own kids, and those in your ministry, as much as possible.

Click here to read the entire article!

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Knowledge Here is another article I published over on Ministry-to-Children.com. The article titled 7 Things Kids Wish Their Leaders Knew was published on July 17, 2010.

Brief Synopsis: I asked my kids what they wish their children’s ministry leaders knew. This article summarizes what they told me.

Click here to read the entire article!

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