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We continue our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart” with a look at the first chapter titled “Getting to the Heart of Behavior.” This chapter starts out with a reminder of what Proverbs 4:23 declares to be the truth of God:
“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.”
That Proverb becomes the basis for Chapter 1 and the rest of the book. In Tedd Tripp’s words, “The scripture teaches that the heart is the control center for life.”
So, what does this have to do with parenting? Tripp explains that our kids’ actions, everything they do and say, reflcts what is in their hearts. In other words, behavior is not the end all and be all when it comes to parenting. The fundamental issue to parenting, if we really want to help our kids, is what is going on in the heart.
I personally found the following excerpt from Chapter 1 very convicting:
“A change in behavior that does not stem from a change in the heart is not commendable; it is condemnable. Is it not the hypocrisy that Jesus condemned in the Pharisees? In Matthew 15, Jesus denounces the Pharisees who have honored him with their lips while their hearts were far from him. Jesus censures them as people who wash the outside of the cup while the inside is still unclean. Yet this is often what we do in child rearing. We demand changed behavior and never address the heart that drives the behavior.”