Posts Tagged "Childhood"
In this chapter, Tripp look at addressing the “why” of our children’s behavior rather than just the “when” or the “what.” We must help our kids “to look at the ‘what’ of their behavior from the ‘why’ perspective.” Unless we dig in to the heart in this way, we only end up addressing the external aspects of behavior rather than the heart attitude.
Tripp defines character as “living consistently with who God is and who I am.” He gives several examples of viewing character traits based on this framework. Tripp makes the following observations regarding character development:
- Parents should not instill the idea in their kids that if they try hard enough, or are good enough, or really strive for it, that they can be what God has called him to be. None of us can – absent the grace and mercy of God.
- It is impossible to try to build good character qualities in our kids without reference to God.
- Teaching character is a process, not an event. It requires plenty of patient teaching and instruction.
- When you give your kids a keepable standard it trains them to rely on themselves and turns them away from the need for the Cross of Christ.
- Proverbs is a great book for teaching kids about character.
- Many parents are not able to correctly assess the character issue behind behaviors. Many times that is because we view our children’s behavior problems very naively. We do not want to admit the character flaw to ourselves and downplay the behavior.
Tripp defines childhood as the middle period of a child’s life from ages five to twelve. During this period of their life, a child is developing more of a sense of independence regarding their choices and their personality. With the beginning of school and other activities, the children find themselves spending more and more time away from the direct supervision of their parents. They are confronted with situations their parents do not witness or control.
For this section of the book, Tripp assumes that you have, as a parent, already taught your child the lessons of stage one. Your child sees himself as a creature made by God who lives for God and understands what it means to submit to authority. That said, the big issue for this second stage of a child’s development during the Childhood years is character. Tripp offers the following partial list of charater traits we would like to see our kids develop:
- Moral Purity
Tripp defines infancy to childhood as that period from birth through age four or five. During this period, the child is going through astounding changes including:
- Physical change
- Social change
- Intellectual change
- Spiritual change
At this stage, there needs to be one principle objective to training. That objective is to instill the following: “HE IS AN INDIVIDUAL UNDER AUTHORITY. He has been made by God and has a responsibility to obey God in all things.” Submitting to parents is the result of being under God’s authority. In other words, submitting to authority is what God has called children to do. This training must start when they are infants – Tripp suggests the second you bring them home from the hospital.
Welcome to the third weekly installment of “The Blog Patrol.”
These are the stragglers from the prior week which I either didn’t receive or find in time to add to last weeks Blog Patrol. Enjoy!
- This article examines one church’s look at how to convey the gospel to kids from birth up through age 18.
How do we know which Scriptures are applicable today and which should be considered culturally irrelevant?
- John Piper has a look at this age old question that arises regarding the interpretation of God’s Word.
- This is the beginning of a series in which Kevin Deyoung looks at modern day “high places” analogous to the high places of the ancient kings of Israel. In this post – “1. The lack of Psalm singing in our churches.”
Wednesday (April 15, 2009)
- In this 5th Installment on parenting skills from Jabberfrog, they look at the issue of creating strategic relationships for your kids.