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I hope that you’ve found our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart” both thought provoking and useful. There is certainly a lot of useful information to be gleaned from the book. The following is my “cheat sheet” of things covered in the book:
4 Reasons our culture has lost its way in terms of parenting
- Many people in our day and age have children but don’t really want them. Children are viewed as a liability in a culture that has increasingly convinced people that the paramount goal in life should be their own personal fulfillment.
- The idea of quality time has replaced the idea of quantity time.
- It is no longer socially acceptable for Dad to be the authority in the home.
- Children see their parents refusing to submit to authority which results in their unwillingness to accept a submissive role in life.
7 Observations on Parental Authority
- You must not be embarrassed to be your child’s authority.
- Our authority as parents comes from being an agent of God.
- We should never direct our children for our own convenience, but rather on behalf of God for their good.
- The purpose of our authority is not to hold our kids under our power.
- Our goal is to empower our children to be self-controlled individuals living under God’s authority.
- As parents, we must require obedience from our children because God’s word calls for obedience and the honoring of parents.
- Based on Mr. Tripp’s experience, children don’t generally resist authority when that authority is kind and selfless as described above.
5 Observations on Shepherding Our Children
- As a shepherd, our goal is to help our children understand themselves as a creation of God and their role as being made “for God.”
- The job of a parent is to lead children on the path of discovery.
- Our job is to shepherd our children’s thoughts to help them learn discernment and wisdom.
- We do this with open and honest communication.
- The Heart is the Focus of Shepherding (“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” [Proverbs 4:23])
Tripp defines infancy to childhood as that period from birth through age four or five. During this period, the child is going through astounding changes including:
- Physical change
- Social change
- Intellectual change
- Spiritual change
At this stage, there needs to be one principle objective to training. That objective is to instill the following: “HE IS AN INDIVIDUAL UNDER AUTHORITY. He has been made by God and has a responsibility to obey God in all things.” Submitting to parents is the result of being under God’s authority. In other words, submitting to authority is what God has called children to do. This training must start when they are infants – Tripp suggests the second you bring them home from the hospital.
In this chapter, we look at the basis for parental authority. Tripp begins by explain that our culture is adverse to authority – not just being under authority, but also being an authority. In our culture, we view all authority as derived from overwhelming force or by consent. As Tripp explains, that leaves only 2 potential responses – either rebellion or servility. In Tripp’s words, “Our culture has no notion of intelligent, thinking persons willingly placing themselves under authority.”
When it comes to parenting, the author explains that parents often don’t understand our biblical mandate to shepherd our children. Accordingly, the goals of parenting often become nothing more than immediate comfort and convenience. In order to function, parents and children must understand that God calls parents to be in charge over their children and that children are called by God to obey their parents.Read More