Today’s post is about divorce and the impact of divorce on kids. It is the beginning of what I hope will be series of articles over the next several months on the general issue of marriage and divorce. I hope to cover a biblical view of divorce, statistics related to divorce, the impact of divorce on children, and much more. I do not know why God has laid this on my heart to explore and discuss this issue. Though I lost my mother when I was six years old, my parents were not divorced and my father and step-mother have now been married for over 20 years. By the grace of God, I am not divorced. So, I do not write with a first-hand knowledge of the emotions which accompany divorce. I think that this is both a positive and a negative. That said, God has increasingly laid this issue on my heart and so I will move forward in obedience to God.
I feel like an article like this (or a series of articles like these) needs to have some sort of disclaimer – not a disclaimer of God’s Word which is true and infallible and needs no disclaimer – but a disclaimer as to the intent and purpose of the article. I believe that the Bible is clear – divorce is a sin and God’s plan is a plan of reconciliation. I also believe that the Bible is the revelation of God who is the ultimate in authority in our lives. Divorce is not the worst of all sins or an unforgivable sin, but it is a sin (in most cases), and the church has for the most part abdicated its responsibility and mislead its people in not calling it a sin. It is a sin like all others that needs to be repented of like all others. And, like other sins, it it the reason the Christ died on the cross.
That said, if you have been divorced, God does not love you any more or less than if you have not. This is not an article about why you or anyone else should, or should not, have gotten divorced. It is not an article meant to condemn you if you have been divorced. If we are in Christ, we have been given his righteousness, and that is what God sees when he looks at us. This is not an article meant to point out the speck in your eye while ignoring the plank in my own eye. It is an article about God’s plan and the impact that divorce has on that plan. It is, I hope, and article which will make people take a second to think about the implications of divorce both on families and on the church.