Free Online Support Group for Teen Children of Divorce

IAACOD Support Group - 300As many of you know, a couple of months ago we launch I Am A Child of Divorce as a resource site for children of divorce.  As part of an effort to be a place where children of divorce find hope and healing, we recently announced the launch of a pilot online support group program for teens.

This new group starts at the end of April and will run for 16 weeks and cover a variety of topics faced by teens when their parents separate or divorce.  Registration is open through next Tuesday (April 30th).

To find out more information about these groups, click on one of the following links:

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Who Are You Talking to on Facebook?

This post is a little out of the ordinary for me, but God has laid it on my heart today so I thought I would share it.  In my research for DivorceMinistry4Kids.com I come across a lot of research about divorce.  Much of that research deals with the devastating effects of divorce on kids, but much of it also includes more general information on divorce and some on the cause of divorce.  I came across a statistic recently that stated that Facebook usage was cited in 20% of all divorce cases in the United States (http://www.thetelecomblog.com/2011/03/08/facebook-will-ruin-your-marriage/).  I don’t know if that’s true.  I did not check it out or verify it for myself because the actual statistic is not a salient part this article.  It did get me thinking though.  I do believe that Facebook and the relationships formed on Facebook are becoming an increasing problem for marriages in our society.  Before I get into that, though, I feel like I should lay a couple of things on the table:

  1. I am not anti-Facebook.  I believe Facebook, and other social networks can be a useful tool.
  2. I have been on Facebook and Twitter for several years and find both very useful.
  3. I do believe there is a danger in social networking just like any other circumstance you can put yourself in.
  4. I believe that Facebook allows you to put yourself in danger more easily than in the past because it’s ready availability and the fact that you can use it in the comfort of your own home.
  5. Whether the number marriages destroyed, at least in part, is 20%, 10%, 5% or 2% does not matter.  What matters is your personal circumstance.
  6. I do not believe that, in all cases, Facebook is the sole contributing factor to the demise of these marriages, but it can serve as the proverbial “straw that broke the camel’s back.”
  7. I believe that there are marriages that might otherwise have survived which are destroyed by relationships of opportunity that were formed on Facebook.
  8. My concern is for marriages (and ultimately for protecting the kids that so often suffer when those marriage break up).
  9. My purpose in writing is not to condemn you, but to warn you.
  10. I believe that marriage is a covenant between and man and a woman and God, and it is a covenant that must be carefully guarded and protected from external and internal forces which seek to destroy it.
  11. For those marriages where children are involved, the risks are even greater because the result affects additional people.
  12. I believe that all marriages are salvageable, no matter how desperate they might seem, because I believe that our God can do anything.

So, the question we want to ask today – the question you need to address head on, is:

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Help Us Minister to Children of Divorce

imageI need your help! I don’t often use this vehicle for personal reasons, but today I am making an exception. I am making an exception because I believe it is of critical and urgent importance to our churches and to our children’s ministries. As you read the article below, you will learn about the wide path of devastation that divorce leaves in the lives of our children. You will read about the impact that this has on kids. I believe with all my heart that we, as the church, are called to fill the void left in a child’s life when their parents’ divorce. In order to do this better, I am currently conducting a short, confidential, online survey of people whose parents divorced before they reached the age of 18. You can find that survey (which asks 8 simple questions) at http://www.Kidmin1124.com/divorce/.

The goal of this survey is to help those of us who work with children to recognize the needs of children of divorce and serve them better. If you fall within the group targeted by the survey, please click on the link above and take 5 minutes or so to help us to positively impact kids who are currently going through the divorce of their parents. If you know of someone who fits the criteria, please forward the link to them as well. The more people we can get to fill out the survey, the better the results will be.

God has laid this issue heavily on my heart. As such, it is my intention to publish this article on Ministry-to-Children, Kidmin1124 and Dad in the Middle at roughly the same time. I apologize to those of you who will stumble across it more than once because of that, but my desire is to reach the largest audience possible in hopes that some in that audience will help me to spread the word. Thank you so much for your help. Now, on to the article!

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