I hope that you’ve found our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart” both thought provoking and useful. There is certainly a lot of useful information to be gleaned from the book. The following is my “cheat sheet” of things covered in the book:
4 Reasons our culture has lost its way in terms of parenting
Many people in our day and age have children but don’t really want them. Children are viewed as a liability in a culture that has increasingly convinced people that the
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In this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 19 – Teenagers: Training Procedures.”
Tripp introduces this chapter as follows:
“I remember thinking that if keeping my children in line depended on me outwitting them, I might fail. I am now persuaded that raising teenagers is not a matter of out-maneuvering them. It is much more exciting and satisfying than that.”
Instead, raising teenagers is about internalizing the gospel. This is the process of them embracing the Christian faith you have been teaching them as their own. As a parent, our wish for
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In this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 18 – Teenagers: Training Objectives.”
Tripp explains that the benchmarks for this period are “the onset of puberty and the time when the child leaves home to establish a home of his own.” If one words sums up this time in a child’s life, it is insecurity. The child is no longer a child yet is still not an adult. They feel vulnerable and worry about their appearance. They are anxious about their understanding of life and “unstable in the world of
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In this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 17 – Childhood: Training Procedures.”
In this chapter, Tripp look at addressing the “why” of our children’s behavior rather than just the “when” or the “what.” We must help our kids “to look at the ‘what’ of their behavior from the ‘why’ perspective.” Unless we dig in to the heart in this way, we only end up addressing the external aspects of behavior rather than the heart attitude.
Tripp defines character as “living consistently with who God is and who I am.” He
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In this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 16 – Childhood: Training Objectives.”
Tripp defines childhood as the middle period of a child’s life from ages five to twelve. During this period of their life, a child is developing more of a sense of independence regarding their choices and their personality. With the beginning of school and other activities, the children find themselves spending more and more time away from the direct supervision of their parents. They are confronted with situations their parents do not witness or control.
For this section
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In this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 15 – Infancy to Childhood: Training Procedures.” In the early years, discipline is weighted towards the rod because young children generally do not give much weight to conversation. In this chapter, Mr. Tripp examines the details of spanking including several question raised about spanking.
The “When” of Spanking
Tripp summarizes, “When you have given a direction that has been heard and is within his capacity to understand, and he has not obeyed without challenge, without excuse or without delay, he needs a spanking.
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In this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 14 – Infancy to Childhood: Training Objectives.”
Tripp defines infancy to childhood as that period from birth through age four or five. During this period, the child is going through astounding changes including:
Physical change
Social change
Intellectual change
Spiritual change
At this stage, there needs to be one principle objective to training. That objective is to instill the following: “HE IS AN INDIVIDUAL UNDER AUTHORITY. He
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In this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 13 – Shepherding the Heart Summarized.” This chapter is a short summary of the first 12 chapters, and it makes sense in our synopsis to do the same thing.
The foundations of raising kids covered so far are as follows:
Our kids are the product of two things – their shaping influences and their Godward orientation.
Behavior comes from the heart.
Parents have authority because
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In this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 12 – Embracing Biblical Methods: Appeal to Conscience.”
The issues of communication and the rod dealt with in the last several chapters imply two additional issues which are addressed in this chapter – appeal to the conscience and focusing on the redemptive work of God.
Appeal to the Conscience
As parents, in order for correction and discipline to be effective, they must be directed at our kids’ conscience. Kids will either excuse themselves or accuse themselves because of their conscience. As Tripp explains, “This
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In this installment of our synopsis of Tedd Tripp’s book “Shepherding A Child’s Heart,” we will look at Chapter 11 – “Embracing Biblical Methods: The Rod.”
Before Tripp ever gets into the meat of this chapter, he shares an observation that I found very profound, “All earthly punishment presupposes the great day when destinies are eternally fixed.” I had never really thought about parenting in that light before.
Tripp begins the discussion of “The Rod” with a look at the current societal view of it. Of course, he touches on the fact that the rod, as discipline, is no longer a fashionable
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