Comments on: I’m sorry…an open letter to my family and friends http://waynestocks.com/2009/02/21/im-sorryan-open-letter-to-my-family-and-friends/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=im-sorryan-open-letter-to-my-family-and-friends Wed, 16 May 2012 07:19:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Wayne Stocks http://waynestocks.com/2009/02/21/im-sorryan-open-letter-to-my-family-and-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-10847 Wayne Stocks Wed, 29 Dec 2010 22:36:07 +0000 David, Thanks for your comment. I wanted to take just a second to respond to a couple of things you said. I hope you will take my reply with the grace and humility with which it is intended. I do not believe that divorce, in and of itself, "dooms you to hell." Yes, divorce is a sin (minus limited circumstance), and yes, the penalty for sin is death. On the other hand, Jesus died on the cross for all of our sins so long as we believe in him and make him the Lord of our life. As far as your second marriage, I believe in an all powerful and omniscient God who works not only through our obedience but also through our disobedience to accomplish his will. I think that is a Biblical view. I am glad that God worked through your second marriage in what sounds like ways that only he could. That said, I do not believe that God condones divorce or overlooks the sin just because the second marriage is beneficial. I believe that is a sign of his grace, not a sign of permission. That first divorce is just as much sin as if the second marriage had never happened. Again though, we are fortunate that Christ died for that sin along with so many others that we all commit every day. For that reason, I do not believe it is accurate to assume that God wanted you to make the choice to "sacrifice your first marriage." I don't believe his justice and hatred of sin would allow him to want you to make that choice. I do believe that his love and grace has allowed something which was a sin against a holy God to end up being something lovely and beautiful. Remember that God chose to work through you to save your second wife, but he could have chosen to work through anyone to accomplish his will. That is the essence of humility. God works through whom he chooses to accomplish that which he wills to be done. We are just fortunate that he sometimes chooses to work through us. Many blessing to you my brother. May God continue to bless you and your family! My recent post <a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/DadInTheMiddle/~3/U5lwMFStWzI/" rel="nofollow">Top 10 in 2010 – Top Posts-Pages</a> David,

Thanks for your comment. I wanted to take just a second to respond to a couple of things you said. I hope you will take my reply with the grace and humility with which it is intended. I do not believe that divorce, in and of itself, "dooms you to hell." Yes, divorce is a sin (minus limited circumstance), and yes, the penalty for sin is death. On the other hand, Jesus died on the cross for all of our sins so long as we believe in him and make him the Lord of our life.

As far as your second marriage, I believe in an all powerful and omniscient God who works not only through our obedience but also through our disobedience to accomplish his will. I think that is a Biblical view. I am glad that God worked through your second marriage in what sounds like ways that only he could. That said, I do not believe that God condones divorce or overlooks the sin just because the second marriage is beneficial. I believe that is a sign of his grace, not a sign of permission. That first divorce is just as much sin as if the second marriage had never happened. Again though, we are fortunate that Christ died for that sin along with so many others that we all commit every day. For that reason, I do not believe it is accurate to assume that God wanted you to make the choice to "sacrifice your first marriage." I don't believe his justice and hatred of sin would allow him to want you to make that choice. I do believe that his love and grace has allowed something which was a sin against a holy God to end up being something lovely and beautiful. Remember that God chose to work through you to save your second wife, but he could have chosen to work through anyone to accomplish his will. That is the essence of humility. God works through whom he chooses to accomplish that which he wills to be done. We are just fortunate that he sometimes chooses to work through us.

Many blessing to you my brother. May God continue to bless you and your family!
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]]> By: David Poelzer http://waynestocks.com/2009/02/21/im-sorryan-open-letter-to-my-family-and-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-10840 David Poelzer Wed, 29 Dec 2010 17:01:04 +0000 I am catholic. Was married; now divorced with two beautiful daughters and a step daughter and a step son. My wife is the love of my life, however, biblically speaking, I appear doomed to hell. I truly accept Jesus Christ as my lord and Savior, however the bible does not concone divorce. Lots of background and storyitems that are way to many to include here. Suffice to say that I know in my heart of hearts, my beautiful wife and best friend would not be here (alive) today, if I had not chosen to sacrifice my first marriage..... I believe that God wanted me to make this choice so that I could be a light in her life. I am catholic. Was married; now divorced with two beautiful daughters and a step daughter and a step son. My wife is the love of my life, however, biblically speaking, I appear doomed to hell. I truly accept Jesus Christ as my lord and Savior, however the bible does not concone divorce. Lots of background and storyitems that are way to many to include here. Suffice to say that I know in my heart of hearts, my beautiful wife and best friend would not be here (alive) today, if I had not chosen to sacrifice my first marriage….. I believe that God wanted me to make this choice so that I could be a light in her life.

]]> By: Nicole Tucker http://waynestocks.com/2009/02/21/im-sorryan-open-letter-to-my-family-and-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-7009 Nicole Tucker Mon, 04 Oct 2010 14:44:16 +0000 Thank you for the challenge. If we truely believe that what we believe is really real, how can we possilby keep this to ourselves. Nicole Thank you for the challenge. If we truely believe that what we believe is really real, how can we possilby keep this to ourselves.

Nicole

]]> By: Dad in the Middle – The Year in Review « Dad In The Middle http://waynestocks.com/2009/02/21/im-sorryan-open-letter-to-my-family-and-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-16 Dad in the Middle – The Year in Review « Dad In The Middle Wed, 30 Dec 2009 13:05:29 +0000 [...] anything at the beginning of the year, and the first post was not until February 21 when I posted I’m sorry…an open letter to my family and friends a combination of confession and testimony.  After another month of two or three posts, something [...] [...] anything at the beginning of the year, and the first post was not until February 21 when I posted I’m sorry…an open letter to my family and friends a combination of confession and testimony.  After another month of two or three posts, something [...]

]]> By: Scott Lux http://waynestocks.com/2009/02/21/im-sorryan-open-letter-to-my-family-and-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-15 Scott Lux Fri, 20 Mar 2009 13:20:04 +0000 Wayne, That is the most moving testimony I've ever read. Thank you for putting this out there. I'm forwarding the link to a friend who is still at the point where God is in a little box. Lux Wayne,

That is the most moving testimony I’ve ever read. Thank you for putting this out there. I’m forwarding the link to a friend who is still at the point where God is in a little box.

Lux

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